I think we are all familiar with the saying, “Let nature take it’s course.” I think this applies to so many different areas in our life. Let’s take friendships as an example. We all want friends right?  We all crave to be in community. We all like having people in our lives that we can trust and do life with. We all want friends that have kids, because we then share many things in common, and we can sit each others kids. We all want people that we can spill our guts to.  We all want to be around influential people. We all want to be around people we can learn from. Let’s keep it real too, we all want people in our lives that can potential help us move forward in our journey, our careers, our business ideas and some…

When I moved to Nashville everyone told me I had to get out there and network. It’s the only way you are going to meet people in a new city. It’s the only way you will get your music heard, get your face seen and potentially open doors into the artist pipeline. Which this is probably correct. But the harsh reality is, not everyone wants to meet you. Nobody really cares that you are a songwriter, actor, designer, coffee junkie, film maker, etc etc. It was disheartening for a while when nobody responded to my emails or calls. It sucked really bad to be ignored in public by people I thought were “potential friends.” All I wanted was some advice and maybe new friends. So what happens? You start believing you are not good enough. You don’t have enough swag or blog numbers. I haven’t co written with Ben Folds or Jack White. I haven’t landed a big enough role in TV and film. So these lies begin to take poison your creative process. Why? Because we feel we need certain friends in order to continue pursuing your dreams.

I’ve learned some very valuable lessons in the past 2 yrs. 1. God is in control of the things you can not control & 2. Sometimes we try to force the wrong people into our lives, instead of allowing nature to take it’s course. The friendships that develop naturally are those that last a life time. Some people are really good at self promoting…I am terrible at it!

I have taken a totally different approach. One of my friends told me, “If you are creating from your heart and stay true to who you are, that in itself will draw the things, opportunities  and people to you.” Sort of like the quote in the movie Field of Dreams. “If you build it, they will come.” Now I am not saying you shouldn’t network nor promote. If you don’t speak up about what you are doing, no one will ever know! What I am saying is Focus on what matters most. The rest will begin to work itself out.  When we genuinely do life, trust God with our passions and dreams, good things will happen. You will be surrounded by people who love doing life with you. The opportunities you have been waiting for will present themselves.  Remember, some people are just not meant to be part of your journey. You want friendships on this journey, not expensive baggage. Let Nature take its course.

What are your thoughts on Friendships?

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